Stop setting yourself
on fire for someone who
stays to watch you burn.
johnfen answered: I drove on part of it when we were in Costa Rica!
How was it!?!
If tomorrow, women woke up and decided they really liked their bodies, just think how many industries would go out of business.
Anyone want to drive the Pan American Highway from Alaska to Argentina?
Patriarchal notions of manhood don’t just harm women, they hurt men. Toxic definitions of masculinity lead to well-documented problems like high rates of gun violence, suicide and sexual violence. That’s why organizations like the Representation Project are committed to advancing the discussion about how gender limits the freedoms of both women and men. They recognize that society’s gender ideals aren’t only damaging for women; they’re universally harmful.
Their latest video examines how stereotypes constrain all people from the moment they are born.
Well there’s that.
I want to be proud of myself.
I’ve been trying to think through the past few months in a more reflective way than I have been. I realized that I had almost been painting this year or this semester as a failure or a write-off because of my personal life. I had been mixing my relationship status up into the rest of my life, something that I think is really problematic. I had been falling into the kind of thing I tend to criticize which is equating success with being in a relationship or having a romantic partner and while I never tended to do this while I was in the relationship, I realized I was marking myself as unable to succeed in this semester simply because that one aspect of my life had not succeeded.
Instead, I’m choosing to look at everything else I have accomplished despite or regardless of my relationship status. I’ve signed up to co-author and co-present a paper at a conference (and been accepted), I’ve gone on a trip that has been in the works for 8 years, I’ve attempted athletic things I was convinced I would never be able to do, and most importantly, I’ve redefined how I view myself.
My value does not come from the value that other people place on me. My value as a person does not rest on how others view me, or whether I’m desired, or whether I’m in a relationship. My value as a person is something that I have the power and ability to assign to myself and part of the value comes from redefining what I consider success.